"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be."
We determine what makes us happy and choose our level of happiness at any given moment. Our great mood can also take a sudden turn when people rub us the wrong way or invite their negative attitude into our lives. We can either get sucked into their bubble of negativity or choose to not allow them to ruin our mood just because they are feeling down. This does not mean we can't validate someone's feelings and comfort them, but we are not required to attend anyone's pity parties, or host one for ourselves, for that matter.
I consider myself a happy person. I choose to live on the bright side of life, even on gloomy days. I am one of those people who does my best to radiate positive energy. My level of happiness and positivity fluctuates, but you will rarely find me in a bad mood. I stopped looking for reasons to be upset after reconnecting with my heart through my personal fortress of solitude, just like Superman. I found there is no reason for me to allow outside circumstances beyond my control to negatively affect my mood. I can choose to be angry, irritated or upset, or I could choose to let it go.
I decided a long time ago that nobody else is responsible for my level of happiness except for me. I also felt the need to contribute to other people's level of happiness by treating everyone I encounter with more kindness and respect. I found by treating others better, I feel better about myself too. It's a win-win encounter! I never realized when I was younger how backwards I had it. I mistreated myself and others to everyone's displeasure, especially mine. Now, I treat myself and others much better, from a place of love, the way we all deserve to be treated!
We are subject to the ups and downs of the rollercoaster ride of life. It can be quite the ride we learn to enjoy more often when we are not looking for reasons to be upset or allowing the negativity of others to determine our mood for us. We get to choose how we respond, especially when relating to the minor inconveniences that are begging us to be annoyed or upset. By choosing happiness, we also choose to live a better quality of life.
Psychology Today: Choosing Happiness - The science of cultivating happiness
Lifehack: How to Always Choose Happiness Even During Tough Times