Accepting our fate
"There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be."
- John Lennon
We cannot predict the future and we cannot change the past. These are two important things to remember as we play out the different poker hands life deals us. While we play out each hand, we have to take the losses with the wins. Not every hand will seem fair. Sometimes we may feel outmatched. Sometimes we may have to fold, but it's up to us to keep anteing up as we continue to learn from each previous hand in the poker game of life.
We may find ourselves dealing with setbacks or obstacles that can seem insurmountable at times. We may wonder how we got ourselves into such a situation that we cannot seem to find our way out of. Or even worse, we may find it difficult to muster up the courage and strength to move on. It's in times like these where acknowledging our options can help us to accept what is, and plan accordingly. Sometimes, there are no good options, but they are all better than denying the inevitable.
We may not always like what fate has handed us, but our problems will not go away by just ignoring them. They typically go away more easily when we face them head on. The sooner, the better. We can complain about it. We can throw ourselves a little self-pity party for one. We can pretend the issue will resolve itself, but will it? Typically, when we ignore our fate, whatever it may be, the situation can tend to get worse when left unaddressed. Even worse, when we have difficulty accepting the fact of the matter, we may struggle to move on. This is why accepting our fate can help us move on. What will fighting it or denying it do?
Do you have any areas in your life where you feel like you may be struggling with accepting the reality of the situation? Our problems do not tend to go away by ignoring or resisting them since it usually only makes matters worse. We can conquer the obstacles and setbacks of life quicker when we begin to more effortlessly accept the hand we were dealt and play it to the best of our ability. We may not always win, but we can ante up again so we can continue racking up our wins and learning from our losses in the poker game of life.
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